The Girl Who Never Had A Boyfriend Since Birth

As women, there comes a certain point in our lives where it turns out to be more of a "requirement" than a "choice" with involving ourselves in a romantic relationship. According to sources, this usually starts when we reach the age range of twelve years old to seventeen years old.

However, the fact that it is still just a matter of choice can never be forgotten. There is still a percentage of girls who remain to be single even after the age of seventeen. They are simply branded the “No Boyfriend Since Birth” or more popularly known as the “NBSB”.

For an NBSB teen like me whose age is now considerably legal, it has already been part of my almost everyday life to answer the question, “Why don’t you have a boyfriend?”, coming from either my family, friends, or even people I just met. Thankfully, I am still in college; hence the monotonous answer, “Studies first”, is still very much acceptable.

But hey, being single and inexperienced with relationships also has its perks.

UPS AND DOWNS OF BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP

Engaging yourself in a relationship with a guy means loads of time and celebrations spent together, which means lots and lots of money spent for each other. An example is that you celebrate your monthsaries, anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, Valentine’s and other more important events side by side. Usually, in these occasions, you need to at least buy or have something for your other half. So, instead of saving the money for future consumption, you invest it in buying gifts for your boyfriend.

Being single spares you from this dilemma and also gives you the chance to spend for yourself or for other important things. You could purchase the latest shoes, clothes or make-up because you get to keep the money for your own personal use.

Having a boyfriend entails encountering problems or misunderstandings at a specific period in your relationship. Every relationship has its bumps so, if you have a boyfriend, you won’t get freed from this. Yet, this might even become the cause for stress or depression which could lead to bigger problems.

MORE TIME TO SPEND FOR FAMILY AND FRIENDS

Fortunately, if you’re single, you don’t get to face these additional relationship problems. You could just concentrate further on your studies and focus more with your family matters.

When you’re in a relationship, you devote most of your time to your partner. Let’s face it, you can’t get away from your family members and friends feeling jealous because you don’t get to spend time with them anymore. Rendered by a study, as both men and women enter a relationship, they tend to lose the friends that they are closest to.

On the brighter side, being single, you manage to become more of the supportive daughter or friend who is always there. Someone who is available when they need a person to go to.

LOVE IN DIFFERENT FORMS AND THE RIGHT TIME

There are many ways to express love for someone; also, ways on how to feel it from someone. Boyfriends are not just the only source of the love we, girls, want and need to have.

Having a special relationship with someone you love, not as a family or a friend, is a magical feeling any girl wishes. However, once you experience being in a relationship, you tend to look for it as the time passes by. After a break-up, you miss the feeling and emotion of being romantically in love with someone.

If you have been single all your life, you don’t really know this certain unexplainable feeling of “eros” just yet. So, you settle with “agape” for God, “storge” for your family and “phileo” for your friends.

You don’t look for love. You know how to wait for the right time.

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Kobola, Frank. “Dear People in Relationships: Stop Saying You Miss Single Life.” Cosmopolitan.

18 Sep 2015. Web.

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Boyfriend?.” Huffington Post. 12 Nov 2014. Web.

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